Explores deep intimate personal relationships between men and women.
Culminating a twenty-year personal and scholarly quest, the authors explore the phenomenon of loving relationships (minus the sexual attraction) between men and women. They articulate these relationships as dialogical love in which partners respond to each other's presence personally rather than categorically as friend or lover. In a society where relationships of dialogical love are neither articulated and named nor recognized as acceptable ways of being, they are usually mistaken as affairs or regarded as "just" friend relationships. Since these relationships are spontaneous, free, and open, their meaning is disclosed through examples rather than by traditional definition. Throughout the book, the authors share their own personal relationship, similar relationships of those they interviewed, and relationships from literature and popular movies. Further illuminating interpretations of friendship and love are excerpts from C. S. Lewis, Rollo May, Caroline Simon, and Robert Solomon. Personal relationships are explicated by the work of Martin Buber, John Macmurray, and Alfred Schutz.
At Lynchburg College John R. Scudder Jr. is Professor of Philosophy Emeritus and Anne H. Bishop is Professor of Nursing Emerita. Together they have coauthored a number of books on nursing, including The Practical, Moral, and Personal Sense of Nursing: A Phenomenological Philosophy of Practice, also published by SUNY Press.
"I found this book unique in both its topic and style, its approach refreshing, the content provocative. The authors show what they have learned and how they have learned it. The intellectual importance of their work permeates the work's texture. Those with an interest in the topic of friendship would benefit from reading this book. Were I to see this book at a conference, it is just the sort of book I would purchase to read at the hotel or on the trip home. " — Frances Chaput Waksler, Wheelock College